Dear Father,

Hello, my name is T. and I am 17. I have a question that I have been searching for the answer to for nearly a year and no one has yet to give me an answer. Almost one year ago, to the day, I met and fell in love with a young girl by the name of ... in a therapy group for troubled teens. Before I had the chance to tell her about how I felt for her, she stopped coming to the group and I was told that she had killed herself by overdose. She felt lost and unloved in this world and longed to be with someone who would love her. We never got to talk much, but I know she was a Christian and that she didn't really want to die, but she felt that her life was so unbearable that she would be happier anywhere else. She never knew that I loved her. Anyway, my question is, what is God's position on suicide? Is the only soul of this earth to give me joy damned to an eternity of hell? Or can God forgive her sin and let her into His light? I would appreciate a personal response to this e-mail and maybe some guidance for MY wounded soul. Thank you.

T.

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Dear T.

Your e-mail deeply touched me. I will be praying for you and offering a Mass for ... We can never judge another person. Even tho suicide is in some way the most horrible of all sins, we cannot say what the state of ...'s mind was when she took her life. A sin has to be done knowingly and deliberately to truly be a sin, that is with full consent of the will.

The healing process for you will be long and slow. Have you gone to confession yourself? Talking to a priest and receiving absolution can be so healing. Meanwhile, pray, pray, pray. You can ask ... for her forgiveness when your pray to God.

God bless,

Fr. Phil Bloom